Should I go and see my parents after argument?

Do what ever makes you happy. More importantly do what is best for the boys. If your family has that warped perspective don't care about what they think. Enjoy going against what they think. Sometimes its the only way. My family has always been sort of the black sheep from the rest of the family but we are closer because of it. People either lift you up or pull you down with them. Don't let them.